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The Goddess at the Spring Equinox

The Goddess at the Spring Equinox

The Spring Equinox, also known as Ostara, happens every springtime when the daytime and nighttime are of equal legth: Equi-nox! Ba boom!

In the Glastonbury Avalonian Tradition, the Spring Equinox is the festival of the Goddess of Fire. All the plants and leaves are awake and frantically growing for their lives. It’s a time of rapid expansion and fevered progress in the plant world: sprouts gotta grout, shoots gotta shoot, and flowers gotta bloom. The sun is returning to the earth and warming up all the creatures and plants ready for the hedonism of summer!

All this fast movement, growing energy and explosion of new life makes the Spring Equinox the festival of Fire in the Avalonian traditon.

In other traditions, it’s associated with other elements.  Spring is often associated with Air in other traditions for… some reason. I assume because of fast growth or something? I never got it. The Avalonian wheel of the year makes sense to me so I stick with it.

At Spring Solstice, we celebrate the Goddess in her form as the the Celtic Goddess of Fire: as Sulis, the Romano-Celtic Goddess of fire and water, specifically hot springs, and as Grainne, the Sun Goddess. The sun is back to warm the earth and ignite life again. Huzzah!

We are all about eggs and bunnies because it’s a festival of new life: the festival of the SPARK of LIFE (see? Fire fire fire.)

In the Avalonian tradition, we connect with Artha, the Bear Goddess. Now, Artha is an archetypal goddess, rather than a real goddess: as a concept, Bear goddesses have been a part of ancient European legends for millennia, seen as totems of strength, power and nurturance for indigenous cultures across the world. The bear is associated at this time because bears hibernate in the winter, returning to Mama Earth to emerge at springtime. The Bear is a powerful protective mother archetype, and Kathy Jones, the originator of the Priestess of Avalon tradition, gave this bear-goddess archetype a name: Aretha, based on the celtic word for Bear.

When I was training to be a Sister of Avalon, I had a tough time connecting with the Goddess of this season. There isn’t a lot of info on celtic fire goddesses (other than the infamous Brigit), we don’t get bears in the UK any more, and being a single girl, all this talk of fertility makes me uneasy. But then I got thinking about it.

The most famous Bear Goddess in Europe was Artemis, the Maiden Huntress of ancient Greece. For me, her Huntress archetype perfectly encapsulates the energy of the Goddess at this time of the year.

Diana and Endymion, by Walter Crane

The Goddess at the Spring Equinox is a young woman, a teenager I guess, who lives fully in her wild woman power. This is before she is interested in boys, before she settles down, before she becomes a part of society – this is her at her most wild joyousness. She communicates with the creatures of the forests, laughs and dances wildly under the full moon, and hunts with her bow and arrow.

Wild and independant. Young and free. No interest in a partner, or anything to impede her freedom.

For me, that is the Goddess at Ostara, at the Spring Equinox. The huntress. The independent maiden.

How do you see the Goddess at this time of year?

Rockstar Guidance For Peeps Who Have Trouble Focusing On Their Spiritual Path

Rockstar Guidance For Peeps Who Have Trouble Focusing On Their Spiritual Path

Do you have trouble committing to and focusing on your spiritual path?

Perhaps you find it difficult to keep to a dedicated practice…

…you keep meaning to do rituals and witchy things but time comes round to it you just

… and you feel like you are dealing with so much internal resistance that it doing the basics like meditating every day feels like a freaking miracle, let along getting into the stuff you really want to do?

Me too, mate.

Me fucking too.

It’s not that I don’t love my path – and I know the same goes for you too. It’s not that we aren’t in love with our spirituality, because we are. We think about it constantly. It’s the thing that keeps us going, keeps us happy, keeps us sane. It’s the lens through which we view the world.

…and yet…

… we find it so fucking hard to stick at it as we’d like to.

We have lost count of the number of times we’ve told ourselves, “I’m just going to do this every day for a month” and then something comes up on day 5 and we fill ourselves with shame and resentment.

We figure it must be because we are not enough somehow.

If we really loved our spirituality, if we really were into the Goddess, if we really were a witch, we’d have no trouble getting down to it. We’d be doing it all the time and it would be easy. We’d be waking up raring to go with our meditation practice every day, feeling excited to plan spells and be dancing under the stars all night on the full moon, witchy as fuck.

Instead of meaning to and never getting round to it and feeling guilty.

We figure it’s because we are not deserving. That we are bad people for failing to live up to our exacting spiritual standards.

And every tiny dissapointment, every time we have meant to do that guided visualisation but accidentally ended up on the phone to our best mate till bedtime, every time we failed to do our morning ritual because we were going to miss the bus, every time we put off planning for a sabbat and ended up doing nothing… all these little pinpricks of failure build up a story in our heads.

That we are not dedicated.

That we don’t care enough.

That we don’t deserve to call ourselves a witch… or a priestess.

Why though?

Why do we keep failing, when we love it so much?

When we are so devoted to our spirituality, why doesn’t it come across?

I have a theory.

I think it’s our own internal stories messing us up. That we are carrying around limiting beliefs that prevent us from really embracing our witchy nature and committing to our paths.

It’s terribly difficult to commit to a daily ritual to the Goddess when your unconscious is screaming:

You are not worthy of this.

You are a terrible witch.

You are not psychic.

You are going to fail at this.

No-one has given you permission to do this.

You do not deserve to be this.

You haven’t done enough work to deserve this.

I’ve only recently come to realise how much by background beliefs have been messing me up. I find it incredibly hard to focus on my spiritual practice, to be consistent, to progress in the way I want to, because a tiny, seductive voice in side me whispers:

You do not deserve to be a Priestess. 

If you were a real Priestess, you would be better. 

You are not worthy. You are a failure.

The catch 22 is, that to be “worthy”, all I have to do is do the work… but because I feel cripplingly unworthy, I can’t do the work.

FFS, brain.

So. What do we do? How do we fix this?

Well, for a start, we go on the offensive.

Here are my battle strategies for dealing with an insubordinate belief system.


We write down all our limiting beliefs, the dark lies our mind whispers to us. Everything. Keep going. Get lots.

I cannot be a witch because….

Get those demons in the open.

Next, pick the biggies and turn them around. Replace them with a positive belief.

“I am not worthy of being a witch” becomes, “I am a natural born witch, it’s in my DNA”

“Other people make better priestesses than me” becomes “I have a valuable priestess contribution for the world”

“Spiritual people have to be grave and serious and witchy and I’m just not” becomes “My bubbly personality makes me the perfect spiritual seeker”.

Once you have your new affirmations list, put it on your altar and look at it every day; when your brain tries to knock you back with those old shitty thoughts from before, say, “NO brain, nice try, but my bubbly personality makes me the perfect spiritual seeker/I’m a natural born witch, so there.”

What to do with your old beliefs?

Burn ‘em on the waning moon. Tell the universe that you are willing to let these go, tell them to FUCK RIGHT OFF and leave them be. I’ll let your fabulous witchy creativity concoct the perfect ritual.

And, if in a month’s time you need to do it again? No worries. Sometimes our unconscious mind (and our conscious mind!) needs lots of reminding to change. No shame in that.


Start creating a proof list.

Scratch that. Get a proof mother-fucking BOOK.

This is where you collect evidence for all the things you are afraid you suck at. I keep a number of proof lists, but for my spiritual and magical purposes one, I write down everything that has happened that is proof I am an innate witch and Priestess, including…

… that time I was thinking about Avalon and I came downstairs, turned the TV on and there was a shot of Glastonbury Tor. WITCHY!

… when someone said thank you for writing my Mary Magdalene post saying it helped them

… the time I wrote my 13 moon and Morgana devotionals and I did them and it was good

… when I realised that my intuition had been so powerfully spot on about my ex boyfriend – even though I didn’t listen to it at the time, woah!

I record my spiritual practice, any spot on intuitions, whenever I feel a change in energy, any full moon stuff or ritual stuff etc. so I have a running list of proof that says I am a Working Witch and an Active Priestess.

It’s actually a really fun thing to keep a tally of! Proof book for the win.

I think a proof book is essential for those of us plagued by those self-doubting brain demons. That way you can collect evidence that your mind is telling you lies, and you can start to really, practically, 100% get on board with your new beliefs and affirmations ie. THE TRUTH.

Every time you find yourself spiralling into a brain demon funk, you can just get out your proof book and look through and be all – oh. Actually I am a pretty damn spiritual person. Awesome!

I like to keep my proof book on my desk, so I can read it and write in it whenever I remember/whenever I am procrastinating on something important. I think the most sensible strategy is to keep it by your bed and to write in it at the end of the day, cos then you go to bed feeling like a ninja having dipped into your proof book and seen how true your desires and dreams are.

So that’s my battle strategy for overcoming poor spiritual focus and epic internal resistance to embracing your magical, mystical witchy self – kill it at the roots and see how well it survives then.

These strategies have really helped me turn around my fears and resistances and become aware of how much I actually am doing a bloody great job at keeping up a spiritual practice, even when my mind tries to trick me into believing I am not.

I know that the one thing keeping you from being the witchy person you long to be, from seeing how much you already are that spiritual badass, is the useless old stories and lies your brain is telling you about yourself.

Go on. Get those lies out in the open, find a new, equally true but much more magnificent story to replace them, and keep collecting evidence to prove your magnificence…

… until one day, you will be free to see yourself as you always wanted to be.




P.S. Top secret news! I’m in the process of creating an amazing 28 day Rockstar Priestess Practice course, and I’d love to know… what challenges do you have committing to your spiritual path, and what things get in the way of you doing your thang every day?

Do comment below if you have any inspirations or stories you’d like to share about this!

My Morning Temple-Tending Practice

My Morning Temple-Tending Practice

This year, one of my intentions/words of the year is Temple. My big goal is to be able to rent a flat by myself and fill it with lovely stuff, teal sofas, vintage crockery, amethyst crystals etc. and be able to hold women’s circles in my living room.

The dreeeeeeeam.

I want my home to feel like a temple. Like a sanctuary. Like a place where you come home and feel the high-vibe of the Goddess all around you, you know? I have been to a few friend’s houses where it’s like that and it’s wonderful.

So, like all good magical manifesting practices, to make stuff happen, you have to start with what you have now. There is no point waiting for my magical flat to drop out of the sky and THEN start learning how to templeify my living space. Nope. I gotta train myself before I get there. I gotta establish a Temple Tending practice now.

Now, this is where people who know me laugh their faces off, because I am incurably untidy. I’m a creative person. I have a lot of projects. I just leave a drift of notes and sheet music and rhinestones and pens and laptop cables and shoes and bits of fabric behind me wherever I go.

So my practice is to train myself to become excellent at Temple Tending.

So this is what I do.

My temple room is actually just my bedrooom. I have a wee little white bedroom: it’s got a bed, an altar and that’s about it, besides all the stuff in boxes under the bed.

Every morning (well, most mornings), after doing my morning Avalonian meditations and training and stuff, I go to my Venusian Altar.

It’s all red candles and jewellery and roses and fresh flowers and perfume. This year I am really playing with the idea of the Venusian Priestess and what that would look like in my life. I’m craving an expanded, delicious, playful, seductive Aphrodite Vibe in my life, for lots of reasons I talk about here.

So I light my red candle on my altar and do my Venusian Devotions.

(They are not complicated – I do a little prayer to Venus, and then spend about a minute or two breathing in her Rose Red light. Maybe I’ll spend a couple minutes more in meditation focusing on my heart chakra high vibin’ as a ruby red rose of light. That’s it.)

Then, usually I pop some devotional music on (I love Ashana’s Jewels of Silence album), open the window and tidy up my freaking room.

I put the clothes away. I make the bed. I re-arrange the bedside table and the visible stuff under the bed so it’s just so and there is space between everything – I’ve got a bit obsessed with the idea of space being around things, I just feel like it makes such a difference energetically.

(Untidy Person Tip; If you just make your bed, the room looks like 50% more tidy without doing anything, and it takes about 15 seconds. Boom.)

Then I go round the room with these lovely dinger cymbal things or with my singing bowl, with the intention of tuning the energy into a high vibe temple space.

Then I spray it with Aura Spray. I like the Goddess Spray by Lieveke Volke (you can get it at the Goddess Temple Shop in Glastonbury) – it has a lemon-balmy, honeysuckle smell. Lovely. I’ve also been trying to work on a rose-goddess recipe, because I want something with a rosewater base.

I spend a moment breathing in the delicious scent and feeling the spray settle on my skin, and then I am done, baby! By the end, my room feels like a sanctuary, and whenever I pop in there during the day it feels like I’m going into a mini sacred space, where I can relax and breathe.

That’s it. It takes fifteen minutes, and it a vital part of my Temple Priestess Training Plan; i.e. my training to be able to hold my soon-in-the-future flat in a beautiful tidy goddess sanctuary vibe, rather than letting it descend into a hovel of loose sequins, piles of books and half-finished paintings.

Do you do anything every day to high-vibe your home?

How To Keep Up A Spiritual Practice When You Are In The Midst Of Chaos

How To Keep Up A Spiritual Practice When You Are In The Midst Of Chaos

Dude. Let’s be real. It’s hard enough holding onto a spiritual practice when your life is running smoothly – when you know where you are going to be at all times, when your bedtime is, where your bed is and where all your stuff is at.

It’s nigh impossible holding onto a spiritual practice in the face of chaos.

For the last five months, my spiritual schedule has been of the chaotic woah variety. I moved back in with my mum for a bit after my recent big relationship breakup (mums are the best), and while I save up to get a flat and bring my income back to a pre-breakup level (… yeah, travelling followed by a breakup followed by 2 months of heartbroken stupor is not great on your bank account), and now I live part time at my mum’s house, part-time in friend’s spare bedrooms, and the rest of the time on the train travelling to and from work gigs.

I have little to no consistency in my days: some days I will be on a bus 6 hours, others I will be at my friend’s house working out of cafes, some days I will be at home, some days I will be sleeping on my cousins sofa.

It’s disorienting moving around so much. It’s hard to feel settled enough to turn inwards to get down to my practice, and since my privacy is about 50 shades of variable these days, it’s hard to replicate my at home practice on the road.

It turns out I am someone who really needs a home base to feel comfortable, and not having one is…. weird. It makes keeping a spiritual practice challenging to say the least.

Here are my tips on making a spiritual work in the face of chaos.

  1. Don’t punish yourself.

If you are finding it difficult to keep up a spiritual practice in the face of chaos and you are getting down on yourself about it, STOP! Spiritual Practice Numero Uno is to be kind and compassionate towards YOURSELF. Everything starts with you: you can’t go on to achieve Jesus-levels of compassion and wisdom in the world if you are telling yourself that you are a dick for not fitting in your meditation practice today.

Being kind and understanding towards yourself IS a spiritual practice. So if you are doing that, you are already working hard at your spiritual training.


It’s really, really difficult keeping any form of consistency going when your life is so inconsistent. So chill out on yourself.

Also, be aware of who you are comparing yourself to. Are you comparing yourself to the imaginary ideal, who puts spiritual practice first and still does two hours of ritual and meditation every day despite being homeless and being a CEO and also going through a divorce? Are you?

Well, no-one is like that. It’s a useless thing to compare to and you know it! So stop it. Call bullshit on your ego whenever it tries to pull this comparison crap on you. What a dick.

Celebrate, don’t berate!

2. Use Musical Triggers for Meditation.

Your iPhone is your greatest ally here. I use music to help me get out of whatever chaotic situation I am in and sink into my spiritual practice. For example, my (mostly) daily meditation practice wouldn’t happen if I didn’t have my Meditation Song (Returning by Jennifer Berezan) easily available on my smartphone.

I use this song whenever I am doing my meditation practice.

In fact, I have used it so much, it has become a trigger in itself to get into that meditation state of mind. So damn handy when I want to do some meditation practice on my mate’s sofa, or on a coach to London, or in a cafe pre worktime.

Try using the same song every time you meditate – it will help you get into that meditative state quicker, and help you jump out of your crazy reality easier.

Triggers baby. Use them.

3. Surround yourself with mundane reminders of who you are.

I learnt this from my mates a few years ago. In the car, they would always play goddess CD’s. Always. Just doing this would make them feel more connected to their faith, remind them of how much they loved Goddess, and keep them thinking of Goddess the whole day through.

Music is powerful. So if you are in the car a lot, or get to listen to music while you are at work, fire up some spiritual sounds and keep your spiritual practice on your mind.

Have something to wear that connects you to your faith, like a necklace or a witchy t-shirt. Keep your fave spiritual text on your Kindle or iPhone to read in spare moments. Subscribe to a fabulous goddessy podcast. Put an inspirational pic as your desktop background on your PC. Pop a crystal and a candle on your desk.

Use simple everyday background stuff to connect yourself to that spiritual part of yourself. Any thread that keeps you in contact with your mystical side helps, even if it’s just a pretty picture or a song in the background.

4. Support Yourself.

I only realised recently that I’ve been treating my weird transient lifestyle like it’s something that I need to punish myself for or be ashamed of. A huge part of me feels shame that I’m kind of stuck in this weird limbo home life for the next few months, and as a result I haven’t done anything to make it easier on myself.

I am still resisting this lifestyle, even though I am living it – I am pushing against it, judging it, talking trash to myself like “If I was a successful adult none of this would happen” or playing the victim and milking the woe; “My love life just imploded and I should be stressed and miserable, so let’s make sure that I have optimum ability to be stressed and miserable”.

Bullshit. I call bullshit, brain!

We gotta stop resisting how our life is. That’s the cause of so much suffering. 

If I accept that this is my life, and decide to see the bright sides of my situation, things change: I can buy myself a proper overnight bag, rather than carting tired old tote bags around. I load up my iPhone with loads of guided meditations, and put tonnes of books on my kindle so I can enjoy my long journeys. I stop pushing myself so hard to maintain regular working hours when the truth is, it’s just not possible. I stop feeling guilty about putting myself at the mercy of my friends, and instead find ways to appreciate them even more. I see that all this couch surfing gives me the best opportunity to spend time with my favourite people in the world. I make going out and having a social life my top most priority, no matter what the cost, so that I don’t slide into punishing workaholism or feel alone and miserable.

What support do you need in your current chaotic situation? How can you giver yourself that support? What actions can you take to symbolically approve of your chaos? (Mine is buying a nice overnight bag).

5. Find a time and place once a week where you can dive into your spirituality.

I find it hard sinking in to my spiritual practice when I am at my mates houses. I like to have my altars, all my oils, my safe little nest around me to really dive in. But, I am always back home in my bedroom once a week at least. So that day, I can do spiritual goodness.

Even if it’s just a little bit of practice. I know that once a week, I am at my altar and I can light the candles, do my anointing ritual, and honour the Goddess (as that’s a big part of my personal spiritual practice). Once a week is fine.

Lower your standards, man. Stop punishing yourself and pushing for Buddha-level commitment. Chill. Once a week is amazing.

6. Travel Friendly Rituals

I’m relying on anointing a lot these days. A quick prayer, a good ol’ sniff of the anointing oil, and then anointing my forehead, throat, heart, hands, then feet and other places depending on how naked I am. It’s a simple little ritual that connects me in with the energy I am working with.

I also have a little travel candle I like to burn when I am doing stuff at other people’s houses, a crystal to hold, and whenever I am actually in my own house i give my singing bowl a big ol’ ding . The point of having real-world things to do in spiritual practice is that it both anchors it into your reality and anchors it into your mind in the present. I feel the more chaotic my life gets, the more I need to rely on props and things to get my mind into the right place, because there is so much going on my brain needs that extra boost to chill the frick out and get into the spiritual frame of mind.

7. What’s your why?

Why are you doing spiritual practice?

Now, it’s a bit of a duh question, but if you don’t have a clear reason, you are not going to want to go through the bother of trying to fit it into your mental day. Some part of your brain is not going to be on board, and it’s gonna say stuff like “We haven’t got time for this!” or “This is not important!” or “This is stupid!”

You need a super clear Why. Something that will get your crazy freaking-out brain on board. A proper I am committed to spiritual practice because…. answer.

My why is because spiritual practice stops me being living in my head and being miserable, and brings me back into feeling like I can champion the world again. If I do my spiritual practice, chances are I will have a pretty good day.

My chaotic schedule and my work-brain understand this reason: there is a clear correlation between Spiritual Practice and my everyday performance, so it makes sense to make time for it.

There are other less useful answers to this question that might be true, but are too intangible to make an effect on my practical brain: because I want to be connected to the divine every day, because spirituality is the most important part of my life, because I am devoted to the goddess etc.

But the real reason, the actual effect that doing spiritual practice has on my daily life, is that it gets me out of my head and lets me be happy and confident.

If I don’t do it, I just build up compound stress and misery and fogginess. And that’s the way it is.

8. Make it easier. 

It’s really great to be able to rely on other people when shit gets rough. I think it’s the same in spiritual practice.

I have a playlist of prayers, mantras and guided meditations on my iPhone that I can pull out when I have an irritating time of nothing (on a train, waiting around for a class to start, that sort of thing) and participate in. Someone else is guiding me, so I don’t have to think too hard, it’s great.

9. Find an easy, 1 minute thing to do, and just do that. Like, a LOT.

My favourite practice at the moment is the Inner Flame meditation: a few times an hour, I’ll close my eyes for thirty seconds or so and focus on an inner flame at my hearth chakra. I take a few big proper breaths (chronic shallow breather here) and maybe imagine the light of the flame suffusing through my aura. Then, back to work, back in the game.

The point being, it’s a tiny thing to align myself with my soul, with the spiritual part of me, when all the rest of the time I am mad hustle hustle hustle.

Sticking my head out the window every day is a good one: remembering to connect with the energy of the earth by smelling what the earth smells like that day. It only takes a minute.

I also love grounding incessantly, when I remember. Grounding is when you root your energy in the earth, get connected, and be filled up with the vibes of the earth. It makes the biggest difference to my day…. when I remember to do it!


So those are my nine pieces of advice for keeping up a spiritual practice when everything else around you is chaos. Keep calm, don’t be a dick to yourself, and make it as easy as possible for you to do juuuuuuust a little bit every day or every week.

Be cool to yourself. And be cool to eachother.

If you have a fancy idea of how to keep up a spiritual practice in the face of crazy life-ness or insane schedules, or if you are a chaos veteran and would like to share the things that kept you spiritually sane on your journey, share in the comments below and help a sister out!

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Imbolg

7 Simple Ways to Celebrate Imbolg

At this time of year, us witchy goddessy folk celebrate Imbolg on February 2nd here in the Northern Hemisphere. It’s the festival of renewal, rebirth and purification, and one of the four great neolithic Fire Festivals in the pagan calendar.

At Imbolg we celebrate the coming of spring and the Goddess as Maiden, with her qualities of inspiration, innocence, curiosity and purity.

Low on ideas of how to celebrate Imbolg Season? Never fear my witchy amigo! Here are 7 fab ways to celebrate the season this Imbolg.

  1. Purification Ritual

Making washes is my current favourite thing. Pop a litre of water on the boil with a handful of rosemary, dill, chamomile and lavender (or which ever ones you can get a hold of at such short notice) and a sprinkle of salt. Let the concoction simmer away for a while as the water imbibes itself with the herbs.

When the concoction has cooled somewhat, strain it and take a shower. Light a white candle in your bathroom and dedicate it to Brigid: imagine her purifying energy emanating from the candle. Imagine that the shower is a cascade of soothing, cleansing white light, and see it cleansing your body, mind and energy field.

When you are all clean and fresh, pour the concoction over yourself, and air dry as much as you can (I know it’s super cold in February, but at least air dry a bit!).

Dress in white and walk yourself outside to a garden, or pop your head out of a windowsill: stamp three times on the earth to awaken the energies of the earth at this time, and lay down an offering (cornmeal, white flowers, willow twigs, milk… anything to honour the Goddess) and ask for her blessing for the year ahead.

2. Go on pilgrimage to water. 

Put your wellies on and go on pilgrimage to your nearest fresh water. The goddess of Imbolg, Brighid, is the Goddess of wells, so on your journey pray for the healing energy of Brigid to enter your life, or the life of someone you love. Leave an offering of flowers, leaves or twigs in the water when you get there.

3. Light up the night

At night, light a candle in the window to honour and give energy to the return of the sun. Spend time in meditation contemplating the quickening energy of this time of year.

4. Proof of spring photobomb spree

Take your camera phone out on a walk and take photos of all the proof that Spring is on it’s way – blossoms on the trees, crocuses peeking out through the earth. Upload them to instagram and tag them @RockstarPriestess #ImbolgProof so we can have a peek at how Spring is beginning where you are in the world.

5. Make a Bridie Eye

Bridie’s Eyes are symbols of protection. Traditionally they would be made on Imbolg and then gifted to friends and family to protect them and bring prosperity through the coming year.

The only online tutorial I found calls it a Gods Eye – but it’s the same technique. I would recommend popping outside and finding two twigs to form the cross of your eye with – ideally, two willow twigs, the tree of Bridget and the tree of Healing – and use white and green yarn.

See it here.

6. Swot up about Brigid

Brigid is the ancient Irish triple goddess of healing, poetry, inspiration and smith craft. She was such a beloved figure to the Irish people that she was canonised as a saint by the Catholic Church. She is a powerful and fascinating goddess: You can read up about her here:

7. Write poetry, prayers and songs

This is a time of the Goddess of innocence and inspiration. Write poems and prayers in honour off the season, of the Goddess, of whatever you are going through at the moment in your life, and channel the inspiration of the goddess.

Feel welcome to share yours in the comments below – I would love to see them!

Why my Word of the Year for 2017 is Pleasure

Why my Word of the Year for 2017 is Pleasure

I’ve been on a mermaid assignment this past couple of years to learn to stop being such a boring, self-flagellating fuddy duddy and embrace the playful, find-fun-everywhere spirit of the mermaids.

It started with a burn-out breakdown a year and a half ago. I was so anxious and stressed and unbearably hard on myself, I started crying every day, shaking when it was time to sit down at the computer and work, vomiting when I had to leave the house on gigs, and acting like a superdick to all my friends and colleagues.

It was awful. I had to take a month and a half off of work to recover.

I got there because my life was organised around my work, and my work was the sole source of my self esteem – and in my opinion, I never worked hard enough. I thought I was awful and lazy. As a self-employed person, I’d work well into the evening and when I stopped I’d be feeling so guilty about how I hadn’t worked hard enough that day I wouldn’t be able to relax.

I didn’t let myself have any hobbies, or waste money on things like socialising or enjoying myself because if it wasn’t directly related to work, if it wasn’t directly related to making more money, it was worthless.

Life sucked. And because I was always miserable, always stressed, always feeling like a failure and a disappointment, I burnt out. My body, my brain, had had enough. It was breakdown time.


When I got through that, commitment to never, ever end up there again. Never.

And that meant I had to stop punishing myself and start enjoying my life. I had to change the way I approached my life completely.

One of last year’s guiding words was FUN. My mission was to get out there and enjoy myself more. Give myself more time off. Go hang out at friends houses. Go to the cinema, to dance classes, to cabaret nights and parties.

My 2016 New Years Resolution was actually to Drink More Booze. I know, kind of the anti-new-years-resolution, right?

It worked. Pre 2016, super-uptight Demi averaged out at three guilty alcoholic drinks a year. This year I have had a LOT of fun and tried a lot of different kinds of booze with my friends. It’s been the only New-Year’s resolution that I have stuck to!

So that’s my haunting backstory. Onto this year’s guiding word. Pleasure.

Pleasure and Fun kind of mean the same thing.

While they are both about enjoying yourself, but the subtleties of flavour are different.

Fun is extroverted, carefree and wild: it’s trying new things and going on new adventures. Road trips. Twerking class with your bestie. Fun is collaborative, you do fun with other people. It’s about getting out of the house and doing stuff.

Pleasure is different.

Pleasure is a state of mind, rather than a wild one-off adventure to the Drag Queen Cabaret.

You can’t feel Pleasure unless you are Present.

That’s the most important thing about Pleasure.

Pleasure is noticing the scent of your shampoo as you massage it through your hair. It’s about savouring the taste of dark chocolate and salt. It’s about putting towels on the radiator and the wrapping yourself in delicious warmth when you step out of the tub. It’s spending a moment looking at how the shadow from your tea light lantern creates a beautiful pattern on the carpet.

Pleasure is about being awake to the beauty of the world.

Pleasure is about letting yourself be enchanted by everyday.

That’s what I want this year.

I want to be able to tune into how delicious my life is. I want to make space for the magic of being alive. I want to notice how beautiful the world is every day.

I want to live in a state of Pleasure. I want to make Pleasure a priority, so I spend more memorable moments watching the mist hover under the trees out of my bedroom window, and less time numbing out with Facebook and TV.

I want my life to be filled with rich jewels of presence, of pockets of Pleasure.

I want to be awake to see the touch of Venus in the world.

And, yep, I still want to go on road trips and drink homemade caipirinhas on the night buses and have movie nights with my friends. That fun is continuing for sure.

But I’m adding the subtle, heady perfume of Pleasure to my everyday experience this year.

I’m ready to be enchanted.

How to Pick Your Perfect Word Of The Year

How to Pick Your Perfect Word Of The Year

Every January, I like to pick a Word of the Year.

A Word of the Year sets the intention for how you want to experience 2017 – what you want it to look like and feel like and be saturated with. It’s a Core Desired Feeling that states the intent of what you want your life to feel like. It’s a one word magical invocation of the life you want to lead.

Your word becomes your anchor, your reminder, your guide to create a year you love.

It’s like the Theme Song of the year.

(P.S: I think picking a theme song of the year is also a pretty good idea.)

Usually, because I am greedy, I pick more than one word of the year. Muahahaha.

Why use a Core Desired Feeling?

Cribbing from Danielle la Porte’s fab Desire Mapping process, the point of having a Word of the Year, or a Core Desired feeling as she calls it (in my mind, it’s basically the same thing) is to make a simple, obvious guidepost to creating goals that will make you feel that way – since the only reason we have goals is because we covet how we think we will feel when we get there, right? Successful. Fulfilled. Satiated.

Here’s and example. You have a goal of booking three gigs every weekend, because that’s what successful people do and  you want to feel successful. You get all your gig bookings in (great!) but instead of feeling cool and successful you feel EXHAUSTED and overwhelmed all the time. You spend all your weekends on public transport and you are miserable.

It’s because you chased a GOAL instead of a FEELING. If you want to make sure you feel successful, you have to get really clear on what that means to YOU. To me, success looks like having a beautiful flat with a teal sofa and vintage crockery, receiving so many fun well-paying propositions at work I get to say NO to half of them, and having a swinging social life with lots of salsa dancing and movie nights. Success for me is about having a balance between fun work and a social life, not about working myself to exhaustion.

Perhaps there would be a better word to encapsulate what I REALLY want when I think of the success I want to create.

When you have found the word that perfectly describes the way you want to feel, huzzah! You have a super-clear vision of your desired outcome for the year. You can now use your word to help you decide what to spend your energy on this year. You know the exact outcome you are after, so now it’s super easy to only do things that lead to that outcome.

If your word of the year is Nomad, your priority is going to be travel. Spending money on that new sofa is not gonna help you feel the way you want to feel!

If your word of the year is Pure, it might be not be time to pursue that stressful promotion at work. You might want to focus on your meditation and diet game this year.

If your word of the year is Fearless you are all about getting yourself out of your comfort zone – so maybe going for that promotion is the way to go!

Inspiration for your Word of the Year


Sometimes it can be hard to find the right word! here is a list of over 100 words to jump-start your inspiration.

Got your Word?

The next step is to figure out what you could do to ensure you feel that way.

Intent is nothing without action! Part two of your word-of-the-year adventure is brainstorming ways that you could manifest that feeling into your life.

What choices could you make to, say, enhance Peace this year?

What habits could you adopt to bring more Excitement to your life?

How would you approach your work life if Seduction was your word of the year?

Creating your Word of the Year is so much fun! If you get it right, it’s like making a magical spell – it throws the universe into action, and helps you to manifest what you really, truly desire.

Free Step-By-Step Guide to Finding Your Word Of The Year!

I have created a super sexy bejewelled PDF guide to take you step by step through the hallowed process of choosing your perfect Word of the Year, full of tips and tricks to make sure that you pick the most potent powerful word possible.

Be warned though, it’s kinda like the bad-girls guide to picking a word of the year… here to view, or right click and select “Save Link As” to download it!

My Words of 2016

This last year my words were Electric (as I wanted to be super excited and jazzed up) Sisterhood (because I was longing for it) Fun (because I was sooooo done with overworking and punishment) Shameless (because I wanted to be more visible in my work n’ career and this sounded like a fun way to do it) and Expensive (because I love love looooove feeling expensive).

These words were the bomb. I kinda wanna keep them. Throughout this year I started working on projects and collaborations that made me feel passionate and excited and Electric – an awful breakup made me realise and see the powerful Sisterhood I had gathered around me and how I had the world’s best girlfriends – I actually started to make Fun a priority, going to cabaret shows and parties and, like, having a LIFE (holler to all my self employed hermits out there) and as a result my creativity exploded – 2017 was the year I gave myself permission to be Shameless enough to follow my dream to become a Burlesque Dancer and started tearing up the internet writing my authentic truth, even though it terrified me –  and this last year, I was Expensive enough to add to my french lingerie collection, give myself life’s little pleasures as default (Lush bubble baths, luxury food ingredients, and fine fragrance baby) and it felt brilliant.

My Words of 2017

You know, I haven’t finished the process yet. As I said above, it takes time collecting words and figuring out which ones are perfect. The ones I am being pulled towards at the moment are Seductress, because it helps me look life and business from a pleasure filled, enticing, inviting edge, rather than that endless gross hustle I often find myself lost in, and I really need that reframe. Seductress feels kind of amoral (which I dig) and I feel like a Venusian Superheroine when I say it.

The other word I am flirting with is Pleasure, because I need to keep the fun thing going – pleasure describes a more decadent, present, orgasmic, heady, selfish kind of fun which I am hankering for.

I’m still hunting for my other words. I might keep Expensive and Sisterhood this year, because they are so great, and I am so pulled to the world Infamy, because, you know, it sounds like fun! It’s like Shine’s rockstar little sister.

Have you decided on your Word of the Year? Share it in the comments!

Did you use my Word of the Year guidebook? Share your experience in the comments! 

Mermaid Gossip! Rocky P Interview about… MERMAIDS!

Mermaid Gossip! Rocky P Interview about… MERMAIDS!

Earlier this month, I was interviewed by the gorgeous Ellie over at The MerPriestess Youtube Channel. We talked all things mermaid: about what mermaid spirituality is, about whitewashing the divine feminine, about the power of mermaids as spiritual beings and inspiration, about getting to that love-and-light zone… it was so much fun!

It was my first video interview experience, and it was great – I think partly because Ellie is just so lovely.

Watch it not only to get your mermaid-spirituality hit, but also added bonus scenes where you get to see me to see me drink TEA! find a PLUG SOCKET! and admire my BOUNCY FRINGE!

(Fringe is English for Bangs, my American friends)

It’s a longun’ but a goodun, so pop it on in the background as you tidy your office, clean your keyboard, or pop on the bus to work.

FREE Rockstar Priestess Midwinter Magazine

FREE Rockstar Priestess Midwinter Magazine

Today I have a gift for you!

Introducing the Rockstar Priestess Midwinter Magazine!!! Full of lots of seasonal articles and yummy inspiration for winter witchery.

Basically, I’ve become obsessed with turning everything into magazines. Everything. I’m making myself a goal handbook magazine for 2017, and trying to find more excuses to while away my time formatting and putting pretty pictures together.

So I was writing my yule newsletter, and it was turning into a bit of an epic novella because I had SOOOO much to share about winter. Yule is one of my favourite seasons (it’s not as if I say that every season or anything…) and I am so excited to share with you some of my favourite midwinter practices and obsessions.

It would be cool if I was able to regularly make a magazine, full of seasonal info, how-tos and rituals for Sisters of the Goddess… but my plan for 2017 is to go easy on myself, so we will see if it’s able to happen! For now, snap up this baby and enjoy!

Excitement personified! You can click on the image above right to the magazine – right click and select “Save Link As” to save it directly to your computer.


This season’s issue includes:

– Ideas of how to celebrate the solstice season
– Mermaid advice on how to approach New Years Resolutions
– An Avalonian deepening with the Goddess Argante of Avalon…
– … and a FREE guided midwinter mediation to connect with her
– A closing ceremony for 2016
– About Yule as the Festival of Air…

… and a couple of other yummy things.

Best thing? It’s free!!!!

So click below to access your Magazine and Midwinter Meditation.



Badass Secrets of a Mermaid Priestess

Badass Secrets of a Mermaid Priestess

Mermaids are the sacred essence of womanhood, including everything that is sweet and beautiful and, most importantly, everything terrifying and powerful – basically everything feminine that scared the bejeesus out of the priests and god-fearing chaps of the past.

Sex. Death. Rebirth. Power. Feeling. Emotion. Desire. Beauty. All those intense, watery, uncontrollable things. Mermaids are a potent archetype of the fullness of female sovereignty, a gorgeous lens to through which to see and experience both the terrible strength and loving gentleness of the Divine Feminine.

Modern mermaids are women who embody the values of the mermaids. They are unusual women who exist on the edges, with one foot in the normal human world and one foot somewhere else.

There is something seductive about them always – maybe it’s something in their eyes or just a vibe they give out, who knows, but there is something about them that is different. They inhabit their bodies differently to other women.

Combine that with an intense awareness of the sacred and the divine, and you’ve got yourself a Mermaid Priestess. Here are seven intoxicating secrets of a mermaid priestess.

1. We are Mermaids.

Well, not literally, obviously – ever tried getting on the bus with a fishy tail on? Nope.

But our souls are mermaid souls. We feel the call of the sea, crave adventure and freedom, and need to be in nature daily. We are all light-and-dark, shadows-and-twilight.

We are all about sex and death and desire and deep, endless, passionate love.

2. We are deeply in touch with our desires.

Where the human world is happy to tell us what is achievable, what is acceptable, what is an “OK” dream and what is a “bad” dream, we shoot for the weird, the obscene, the fantastic, the sensational.

Every mermaid’s dream is different – one might want to live in a treehouse by a lake, another might want to travel the world with their lover and make love in every European country, another might want to be a folk singing superstar – but all mermaids are all-in for their dreams, all the time.

3. We feel deeply, and we are cool with that.

Mermaid priestesses are watery beings, creatures of love and emotion.

But like the sea, we are not calm and pleasant to swim with all the time – sometimes there are tempests, storms, endless cloudy days.

A mermaid priestess accepts all her emotions and gives herself permission to feel the whole spectrum. Mermaid’s don’t beat themselves up when they are feeling inexplicably sad, or are mad jealous, or crazy angry. They just accept it is the way it is.

They understand that emotions are a part of the forces of nature, and like the ocean, they are endlessly changeable, uncontainable, and that storms blow out in the end anyway.

4. We crave connection with the divine.

It’s a curious mermaid quirk but these mermaid priestesses are passionate about spirituality and connection with the sacred.

Perhaps it’s all that hanging out at the luminal plane where the land and the ocean meet. Maybe it’s the tug of the moon on the tides of their soul.

Whatever it is, mermaid priestesses seek out sacred places and experiences compulsively. They know that there is more to life than what the humans see, a sacredness that encompasses all things, and they want to feel it, experience it, taste it, and then share it with others.

5. We like pleasure, lots of it.

I think it’s a mermaid trait that the human world just assumes is laziness. Nope. Mermaid priestesses embody the feminine qualities of receiving, experiencing, being, and joy.

They are not interested in working 24/7. They need time to relax and chase joy. They love indulging in delicious cocktails, having precious hammock-time, long conversations and aimless afternoons where nothing happens in particular. Something about them understands that there has to be space for joy to sneak in.

6. We like it deep (wink wink).

We like to know the why.

We want to know your deepest motivations, what you think happens when we die, how you feel about sex and God and what your secret desires are. We want to talk about the intangible, the numinous, the dark, the deep.

We want to know how you really feel about something, and let you know that your most shameful feelings and secrets are OK. We want to share our most vulnerable soul side to you and see you share yours in return. As a result we kind of suck at small talk.

7. We think we are pretty damned fabulous, thank you very much.

Mermaid priestesses LOVE themselves. Self love is the most holy sacrament of mermaid-hood – it’s what it’s all about, baby.

Mermaids know they are completely fine just as they are: they don’t need to change anything about themselves to be worthy or to fit in.

We love to revel in our bodies, to enjoy every inch, see what they do and see how much pleasure they can contain. A mermaid priestess is compassionate and loving with herself at all times, just like she would be with a baby dolphin or a seal pup.


The thing is, inside every single woman is a little bit of the mermaid, encouraging her to listen to herself, respect her feelings and treasure her intuition and her body.

She’s the secret voice that whispers that you are priceless and precious. That your thighs are delicious. That you could fucking own the world if you wanted to.

She’s that sensation of white hot Kundalini rising, that fleeting feeling of total empowerment and fuck-yeah-ness. She’s the voice that cries out for a quiet day of blankets and cuddles, the voice that knows exactly what you need to take care of yourself.

She’s the part of you that sees how magical and sacred and filled with possibility the world is. How sacred and full of possibility you are. All you have to do is be willing to listen to her.